I think this really comes down to balance and boundaries. Sometimes we care about people, but we end up caring too much, and we assume they care about us the same way or not. From a personal perspective, I’ve also had experiences with security guards, and for me it’s not about being heartless… it’s about knowing where to draw the line.
We can be good people, show care, and still set boundaries. Including people in our lives doesn’t mean getting overly attached. And it also shouldn’t invalidate the experiences of others who have been hurt or traumatized by people they cared about, including security personnel.
So yes, your rant and point of view are valid. Caring is good, but boundaries are necessary because we don’t always know people’s intentions. There has to be a balance where you can care without losing discernment.
This really hit me, especially the part about learning to care after betrayal. I had a similar experiance with a delivery guy who I'd tip generously and one day he just dissapeared with a package. But honestly your point stands - treating people like they're disposable is such a bigger problem than getting burned once or twice. We gotta start somewhere right?
Honestly we, as a society, have become very used to shutting down before we get taken advantage of and that in turn makes us overly on guard. I have learnt that true care comes out of a place of love and understanding and most of the time shouldn't focus too much on being paid back.
I mean, why are we so anxious of being taken advantage of when we're nice to people? I think it's rooted in a subconscious expectation of being appreciated strongly in a way that we expect to buy the gratitude of the other person.
And I am not saying this to negate the gratitude as a social norm, but at the same time, we ought to learn to care in its absence.
This is so reflective, for me growing up and actually realizing that I didn't experience do much kindness and care from people, so I find it hard to dish it out and when I eventually receive it, I find it very strange, it's like they eventually want something in return.
I think this really comes down to balance and boundaries. Sometimes we care about people, but we end up caring too much, and we assume they care about us the same way or not. From a personal perspective, I’ve also had experiences with security guards, and for me it’s not about being heartless… it’s about knowing where to draw the line.
We can be good people, show care, and still set boundaries. Including people in our lives doesn’t mean getting overly attached. And it also shouldn’t invalidate the experiences of others who have been hurt or traumatized by people they cared about, including security personnel.
So yes, your rant and point of view are valid. Caring is good, but boundaries are necessary because we don’t always know people’s intentions. There has to be a balance where you can care without losing discernment.
You've Got Mail reference!!!!!
I absolutely adore that film>>>>
This really hit me, especially the part about learning to care after betrayal. I had a similar experiance with a delivery guy who I'd tip generously and one day he just dissapeared with a package. But honestly your point stands - treating people like they're disposable is such a bigger problem than getting burned once or twice. We gotta start somewhere right?
Honestly we, as a society, have become very used to shutting down before we get taken advantage of and that in turn makes us overly on guard. I have learnt that true care comes out of a place of love and understanding and most of the time shouldn't focus too much on being paid back.
I mean, why are we so anxious of being taken advantage of when we're nice to people? I think it's rooted in a subconscious expectation of being appreciated strongly in a way that we expect to buy the gratitude of the other person.
And I am not saying this to negate the gratitude as a social norm, but at the same time, we ought to learn to care in its absence.
This is so reflective, for me growing up and actually realizing that I didn't experience do much kindness and care from people, so I find it hard to dish it out and when I eventually receive it, I find it very strange, it's like they eventually want something in return.
But still I am learning to be kind to people.